Here are some general ways to know you might have crossed the line from healthy sexual interest to sexual addiction or compulsion:
1. You lie – This is the No. 1 way you know you’ve crossed the line: when you make up stories to get sex. If you lie with women to get them to have sex with you, you’re a predator and an addict.
2. Sex consumes you – If your interest in sex runs your life, you have a problem. Addicts are always preoccupied with hitting on someone, or picking someone up, or getting home to look at porn before their spouse comes home.
3. You’re “divorced, dead, fired or arrested” – If you continue your sexual activities even under threat of being “divorced, dead, fired or arrested,” you’re an addict. You ignore the consequences, knowing you could really screw yourself you, but you continue to do it anyway.
4. You have an intense interest in pornography – The pornography piece of this cannot be overstated. If you’re having sex with three different people in one week, and chances are you have a strong relationship with pornography.
5. You want to stop and you can’t – Sexual addiction is defined by a loss of control.
